One of my problems, I’ve come to name, is that I’ve tried to rid myself of this way of thinking about sex but haven’t replaced it with anything concrete. Evangelical Christianity made it really easy to know what was right and wrong. It was easy to know when I was supposed to feel guilty (most of the time). I never really had to think about what I wanted in regards to sex because all that mattered was what the Bible said. And now I have to constantly question, “How do I feel about this? Will I regret this? Does it matter that I don’t know him that well, don’t like him that much, don’t think this will lead anywhere? If he does this, should I do that? Because I want to? Because he wants me to? Because it’s expected? Because I’m drunk? Should I do anything when I’m drunk? What is this saying about me? Does this say anything? Am I saying yes because I am horny or because I want to be nice? Will this change our relationship? Do I care? When is it okay to leave?”
And those questions are exhausting.
Read full article here: http://racheltellsitlikeitis.com/2015/04/29/how-christians-have-sex/
I do have a Christian perspective on transgender people, though, and it’s the same as my view on all people: God created us all, God loves us all, and if God loves you, then it’s my job to love you too. That means treating you with respect, kindness, and compassion, just like I’d want to be treated. Period.
Image source and full article: http://gcnjustin.tumblr.com/post/88968521814/a-christian-perspective-on-transgender-people
Given how men and women are socialized around dating in our society, men are more encouraged to behave in creepy ways toward women….
The good news for people who don’t want to come across as creepy is that they have some level of control over how they make other people feel. When flirting, or even just being friendly, the key word to remember is boundaries.
Image source and full article: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/feminist-guide-non-creepy-flirting/
…shame in our parenting stems from our own discomfort with our sexuality and earliest experiences. How we feel about our own privates is a good indicator of how our children will feel about theirs.
Image source, full article, and video: http://soulation.org/jonalynblog/2015/04/refusing-to-shame.html
The most common obstacle I see to people feeling their feelings is negative meta-feelings – that is, how you feel about how you feel.
You feel angry, and you feel bad and wrong for feeling angry.
You feel anxious and afraid, and you feel afraid of that fear, worried that it might take over.
Read full article here:
http://www.thedirtynormal.com/blog/2012/05/10/how-to-feel-your-feelings/
Having a physical body – having a sexual body – was a matter of little consequence to me. Indeed, the idea that listening to my body, responding to it, getting to know it as an intimate part of myself, instead of simply a Jaeger-esque machine was unknown to me. I didn’t know how to listen to myself.
Image source and full article: http://noshamemovement.com/post/84062697988/how-purity-culture-divorced-me-from-my-own-body
(I would add, “especially if you grew up in a conservative Evangelical church.)
3. Sex is not a reflection of your value as a person.
But to get to this place, sex must be removed from its pedestal as an badge of either honor or shame in our culture. As long as boys are shamed for not succeeding in getting laid and girls are shamed for succeeding in getting laid too often, then boys will continue to have an incentive to manipulate girls into situations where consent is ambiguous and girls will continue to have incentive to manipulative boys into situations where they feel unworthy or powerless. Nobody wins in this arrangement.
Image source and full article: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/7-things-sex-education-should-have-taught-us-but-didnt-hesaid/
6:13 – All of our bodies are different, we’re capable of different thigns. Really, all that it comes down to is finding the kind of stimulation that works for you. So instead of feeling guilty or deficient or like there’s something wrong with you, direct all that attention to figuring out what you actually like, what does feel good in your body.
Church and Sex 
A Heterosexual Response to The Nashville Statement
https://flavorandillumination.wordpress.com/2017/09/05/406-who-redefined-marriage-hint-heterosexuals/
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