UNLEARNING PURITY CULTURE: CAN ABSTINENCE BE RIGHT?
YES, YES, YES, THIS!!!
What I want for you is to figure out what is right for you, to have all the tools you need at your fingertips, to understand yourself well enough to make an educated decision. Abstinence that you have been scared into creates an unstable abstinence that is easily broken. Abstinence that you have thought about carefully and deeply and chosen for yourself is far easier to hold onto.
The problem comes when people begin to view the choice to be abstinent as more than a choice. It becomes something that places them closer to God, that positions them as holier and better than other people. It is the marker of a Good Christian Person. This is the problem.